Introspeksi diri setiap hari

 I don’t know why, but the pattern always seems to be the same. Both of them keep placing expectations on me, as if living a simple, peaceful life is never enough. It’s almost like they’re not allowed to slow down for a moment and just breathe. The pressure often sounds like this: “You have to perform Hajj while you’re still young. The sooner, the better. If possible, go right now.” Sometimes it feels as though the message is, “Until you’ve gone on Hajj, you haven’t truly earned your place in the family.” Family gatherings, respect, recognition, it can all seem tied to whether you’ve checked that box. Then there are the expectations. The children must excel. They must achieve something. In every opportunity, in every field, they are expected to stand out. Being part of the crowd isn’t enough; they have to be the ones on stage, the ones holding the trophy, the ones everyone talks about. And honestly, those hopes aren’t necessarily bad. Deep down, they come from wanting the best for ...

Kita hidup di dunia yang serba kebalik-balik Yang salah malah dibela Yang engga ngapa-ngapain malah disalahin terus boro-boro diapresiasi krn udah engga berbuat salah Ke orang lain harus banget memaafkan, memaklumi Ke diri sendiri harus banget dituntut sempurna, gabole dapet pemakluman Kalo diperlakukan orang lain yang bikin engga nyaman, engga boleh protes harus memaklumi, harus introspeksi Kalo diri sendiri memperlakukan orang lain harus bikin orang lain nyaman, aman, senang Standar ganda terus Intinya orang lain harus diutamakan, harus dibahagiakan Diri sendiri harus hancur leburrrr berantakan Orang lain harus dipuji-puji Diri sendiri harus dihina-hina Kenapa sangat tidak adil? Tentu, karena inilah dunia This is just dunya So engga ada keadilan di sini Sabar sebentar bertahan sebentar Ganti fokusnya ke Allah jangan ke manusia Capekkkk terus kalo fokusnya manusia Karena manusia PASTI SALAH PASTI ENGGA ADIL BIARIN AJA MEREKA JAHAT SEENAKNYA BIARIN Yang penting kita engga usah ikut-iku...

 Ternyata kalo kita sedih Sel di tubuh kita kaya lagi bencana alam Ngeri banget Bukan, bukan gaboleh sedih Tapi jangan berlarut-larut Sedih saat itu kemudian tersenyum kembali Apalagi jika permasalahannya aslinya ga berat Perlakuan orang lain tidak dapat kita kontrol Tapi suasana hati kita sendiri yang bisa dikontrol So, ambil alih setirmu Berkendaralah ke tempat bahagia Hilangkan bencana itu Banyak tersenyum, banyak bahagia, banyak bersyukur

 Ada orang Yg gapernah minta maaf Bukan krn dia gengsi tinggi Itu masih mending banget2 Tp ini krn orgnya NGERASA SELALU BENAR UDAH KAYA TUHAN Pdhl dia manusia Tp dia ngerasa SEMPURNA jadi dia gakan pernah minta maaf krn dia GAPERNAH SALAH HEBAT BANGET YA ADA MANUSIA YG GAPERNAH SALAH sebaliknya HOBINYA NYALAHIN ORANG LAIN ATAU APAPUN LUARBIASA KEREN DEH ADA MANUSIA SESEMPURNA ITU

Now do you know what I really want right now? I want to renovate the house — make it two stories. The kids are growing up, we really need more space. Buuuut… I’m the one who has to clean everything up too, actually. But it’s okay, let’s just think of it as a way to keep myself active. I hope my dream comes true soon. Aamiin.

 The frequent issue in marital disharmony often revolves around ego. When both husband and wife have equally large egos, it can lead to serious conflicts, preventing a harmonious family life. Ego, though abstract and unseen, becomes a major point of contention. This writing is from the perspective of a wife or woman. So, what is the right approach when there is an ego clash? As a wife, it is natural to be led by the husband. No matter the husband’s abilities, the wife is part of the team, not the team leader. Is that unfair? No, darling, because both leaders and members have their own rights and responsibilities. There’s no guarantee that being a leader is more superior or enjoyable. Leaders have the heavy responsibility of providing for their members. Therefore, being a leader isn’t necessarily better. From this perspective, the wife, being a team member or in a subordinate position, should not mind if her ego is lower than her husband’s. But what about self-respect? Self-respect ...