The frequent issue in marital disharmony often revolves around ego. When both husband and wife have equally large egos, it can lead to serious conflicts, preventing a harmonious family life. Ego, though abstract and unseen, becomes a major point of contention. This writing is from the perspective of a wife or woman. So, what is the right approach when there is an ego clash? As a wife, it is natural to be led by the husband. No matter the husband’s abilities, the wife is part of the team, not the team leader. Is that unfair? No, darling, because both leaders and members have their own rights and responsibilities. There’s no guarantee that being a leader is more superior or enjoyable. Leaders have the heavy responsibility of providing for their members. Therefore, being a leader isn’t necessarily better. From this perspective, the wife, being a team member or in a subordinate position, should not mind if her ego is lower than her husband’s. But what about self-respect? Self-respect ...
It turns out, this wound isn’t about the matter of Umrah or visiting the holy land. It’s about the fact that I NEVER got to go on Umrah with my parents. While other kids and even the one and only daughter-in-law already have. See? Turns out I’m just that invisible, huh? Turns out I’ve been replaced by the beloved daughter-in-law. Even though as a daughter-in-law myself, I was only taken advantage of. In the end, I was discarded by my parents and handed over to my in-laws. Hahaha, how pathetic it is to be me. But yeah, I get it. I know I’ve got the most sins compared to my siblings. My siblings and even my sister-in-law are pure, sinless. Meanwhile, me? Oh, I’m drenched in sin. Yep, I’m fully aware. The one with the most sins deserves to be discarded and thrown into the trash.